Do
you know why the odds of becoming a huge success is so low? Because it’s
insanely tough. But at the same time, the changes you can make in your
life to exponentially increase the odds are actually very simple.
Simple, but not easy. It’s all in your mind. Are you ready to make major
changes in your life? Let’s get to it. Here are the 13 reasons why you
will never be successful in life.
1. You push off responsibility
Accept
full responsibility for every single thing that happens in your life.
Don’t blame others. Don’t blame circumstances. Don’t blame what you
lack. And definitely don’t blame your luck. You will always have choices
to make in every situation, and these choices will always have
consequences. Take
responsibility. Make the right choices, because they will either steer
you that bit closer to your goals, or away from them. Success is nothing
but a series of all the right choices you make. If you want something,
got get it yourself. You’re in charge. Period.
"I am the master of my fate, I am the captain of my soul. ~ William Ernest Henley"
2. You procrastinate
Understand
the cost of being a procrastinator. It is like a credit card. You have a
lot of fun while at it, but wait until you get the bill.
Procrastination is deadly. I don’t care what your
reason for procrastinating is. The Law of Diminishing Intent states that
if you don’t take action soon after the idea strikes you and the
emotion is high, fairly soon the urgency starts to diminish. And the
longer you wait, the less likely you will ever get the job done. Start
off by making the decision to declare war on your procrastination
devil. By just being aware that you need to be at an endless battle with
this devil, you are already ahead of the majority.
"Procrastination is one of the most common and deadliest of diseases and its toll on success and happiness is heavy. ~ Wayne Gretzky"
3. You are a perfectionist
Perfection
does not exist. It is only a great excuse not to get started. Do your
best; strive to be good; strive to become better than you were
yesterday; but forget perfection. Because if your work truly matters to
you, you will never ever reach that state anyway. And
stop waiting for the ideal moment or the ideal plan. It will never
happen. If it does, something is bound to go haywire along the way. You
just need to get started. And then again tomorrow. And again the day
after. Your dreams will never come to fruition if you are preparing and waiting around. They will if you apply and take massive action.
Do not wait; the time will never be ‘just right.’ Start where you stand, and work with whatever tools you may have at your command, and better tools will be found as you go along. ~ Napoleon Hill
4. You are afraid of criticism
If
you are going to be achieving anything great, expect tons of criticism
and haters. Learn to handle them. Learn the kind of criticism you should
accept and the kind that you should discard. Not all criticism is of
use. In any case, do not let the fear of criticism
stop you from doing what you have to do. You do not have to please
everyone. That’s a sure route to failure. This is your mission. This is
your life. Let’s do this.
"To avoid criticism say nothing, do nothing, be nothing. ~ Aristotle"
5. You are afraid of failure
Do
things for success, but expect failure along the way. Failure is
absolutely necessary. Failure is a life lesson designed to bring out the
best in you. If you are too afraid to fail, then don’t start. It’s
okay to have some fear, but don’t be too discouraged when you do fail.
Because it’s not about how many times or how big you fall, it’s about
how many times you’re willing to get up and try again. And I hope you
answered that with, “as many times as it takes.”
"It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all – in which case, you fail by default. ~ J.K. Rowling"
6. You are darn lazy
If
you’re putting in the same amount of work as the people around you,
consider yourself lazy. It’s a competitive world, and if you want to
stand out at all, then prepare yourself mentally and work two times
harder than everyone else. If others work five hours, you work seven.
Work your butt off. It pays. And forget all your partying.
"Formula for success: rise early, work hard, strike oil. ~ J. Paul Getty"
7. You lack originality and creativity
You
are already lazy. It’s not any better that you are doing the same thing
everyone else is doing. You need to be unique if you want to stand out
as well. Be original and get those creative juices
flowing. Dare to be different from the crowd. You can get ideas and
inspiration from others. You can even copy to a certain extent. But in
the end, be your authentic and genuine self. People are dying to see the
unique you, and not another copycat.
"Trusting your individual uniqueness challenges you to lay yourself open. ~ James Broughton"
8. You play it solo
We
humans were biologically designed to flourish together. Success does
not come by our self. There’s a reason why we like to say we “could not
have done it without you” in the Oscars Academy Awards. It’s true. Don’t
be afraid to ask for help when you need it. Learn to genuinely connect
with others and work together. Support one another. Likewise, help and
offer value to others. You cannot expect to receive when you don’t give.
"Coming together is a beginning; keeping together is a progress; working together is a success. ~ Henry Ford"
9. You are ungrateful
Being
grateful increases your level of happiness dramatically. You will be
much better equipped to face life’s challenges when your natural state
is full of joy, happiness, and gratitude. Happiness leads to success,
and not the other way round. Start adopting an
attitude of gratitude and if need be, keep a gratitude journal. Look
around as you read this. I bet there’s at least one thing that would
make life very different for you if you lost it. And make no mistake,
this is not a chance for you to settle with what you have. Being
grateful and settling are two very different things.
"Develop an attitude of gratitude, and give thanks for everything that happens to you, knowing that every step forward is a step toward achieving something bigger and better than your current situation. ~ Brian Tracy"
10. You fail to learn from your mistakes
Along
the way, you’re going to make a ton of mistakes. Accept them with
humility. Those are some free life lessons. Approach every mistake you
make as a special learning experience sent to teach you something
valuable and necessary for your success in the future. Einstein
says that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and
over again and expecting different results. Learn from your mistakes and
do not repeat them.
"Learning from your mistakes is an essential skill that enables you to develop the resilience to be a master of change rather than a victim of change. ~ Brian Tracy"
11. You don’t believe in yourself
“He
who says he can and he who says he can’t are both usually right”
(Confucius). Drop all your self-limiting beliefs. If you want something
with a strong enough passion, you will find ways to make the impossible
happen. The only limits you ever set up for yourself are all in the
mind. Change them. You
are unstoppable. Dream big because you are destined for greatness.
Believe that you will be a big success. You already have everything it
takes to crush life. All you have to do right now is succeed.
"When your desires are strong enough, you will appear to possess superhuman powers to achieve. ~ Napoleon Hill"
12. You lack consistency
Consistency
is crucial to your success. Develop the habit of showing up all the
time, whether you feel like it or not. The pro doesn’t give himself
excuses. He just gets the work done. Short bursts of fiery enthusiasm
will not cut it. Come up with a system for yourself
and make sure you stick with it. Deciding and succeeding to hit the gym
four times a week is far more superior than deciding to hit the gym
seven times a week and failing to execute three times. Yes, even when
the outcome is the same, because you are training your mind to be weak
by not doing what you say you will do. That weakness will rub off
negatively on other areas of your life. Long-term consistency will always trump short-term intensity.
"We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit. ~ Aristotle"
13. You have stopped growing
Successful
people understand that they need to sharpen their skills all the time.
They understand that once they stop, they will fall behind the
competition. They’ve made the decision early in the game to become
excellent and the top in their field.The moment you
stop growing and learning is the moment you truly fail. That includes
your personal development and all other areas of your life. In fact, the
moment you decide your level of personal development is enough, that’s
when you become a failure of life.
"Your level of success will seldom exceed your level of personal development. ~ Jim Rohn"
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